Life is complicated. YOUR life is complicated. Yea, there’s some good stuff, but there’s more than enough stress to fill your day too.
I’ve promised you 5 ways to reduce your chaos – here they are:
- Say “No” more often.
- Say “Yes” less.
- Before you give an answer, say, “Can I get back with you tomorrow about this?”
- If you get caught accidentally saying ‘yes’ because they kind-of sprung it on you and it was awkward to say ‘no’ initially, call them back and create a “do-over” where you apologize for making a mistake in saying ‘yes’ when you really needed to say ‘no.’
- Utilize the perfect excuse of “I am so sorry, but I have other plans” – namely, your plans are to not be doing whatever the other person is asking you to do.
The bottom line here is that we all get ourselves into trouble (aka create stress and drama for ourselves) by agreeing to things that we have no business aquiessing to. We do it for reasons of false guilt, non-existent willpower, trying to impress the wrong people for the wrong reasons – because we are too insecure to set a boundary that helps preserve our well-being.
Any form of “no” takes practice. But if you do it with respect and confidence, you will see a marked decrease in your overall stress levels and you will actually be proud of yourself, once you get over the initial discomfort that comes with new boundary setting.
Try it. Once you learn this, you will never look back. I promise.